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chic agendas academic planners 300x214 How to Build Relationships before Competitive Agendas Arise? (2) When you begin by reasoning that you?ve got an often good-enough performer whose limitations are in the way, you are not only correct but you have events staged to take up problems in a positive manner.

You might approach the other person thinking, ?Now it?s time for this person to take the next step forward in how he or she thinks acts,? or, as with Ken, ?I?ve got an opportunity to help this otherwise capable performer whose insecurities have inadvertently been hooked, causing him to temporarily act out a self-defeating routine.?

Relationship building is an unpredictable process that always is imperfect. But one thing is certain: it?s a process that is much easier to carry out in a positive manner before performance problems arise.

On the first day, when you are getting to know someone, we find that you can be direct and ask just about anything, even what was on the debit side of that person?s last performance review, as long as you remember to smile, nod your head, and conduct your search from the angle of appreciating positives.

But when you broach the same personal style and background questions on the second or third day, after you?ve had some work engagements, you?ll find that the other person is in the beginning stages of wondering ?What are you up to?? and ?Why are you asking me this now??